Gurpreet’s story is ultimately about forgiveness. She suffered a lot of abuse growing up but in the end, she forgave her father for everything he put her through. Our question to you:
Can someone do something to you that is unforgivable?
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In most situations in my life I've been able to forgive because I believe in forgiveness as an opportunity to release feelings of anger toward someone and gain peace of mind for myself. However, forgiveness does not always mean wanting that person back in my life.
For really serious offences such as extreme betrayal, abuse, etc. where someone is a threat to my mental, emotional or physical health, I may be able to come to terms with what happened but I couldn't imagine ever having a positive relationship with that person again.
That's so true, Safia. Forgiveness is much more about you as the forgiver than the other person. And you're right to say that just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you need to let them back in your life. Healing can happen from a distance.
Jun 29, 2021Liked by Love and Literature, Safia Bartholomew
It sounds just like me. I have forgiven people who have betrayed me but given a choice I wouldn't want to talk to them ever again. Not because they betrayed me but because they wouldn't believe my words and would try to hurt me again.
In most situations in my life I've been able to forgive because I believe in forgiveness as an opportunity to release feelings of anger toward someone and gain peace of mind for myself. However, forgiveness does not always mean wanting that person back in my life.
For really serious offences such as extreme betrayal, abuse, etc. where someone is a threat to my mental, emotional or physical health, I may be able to come to terms with what happened but I couldn't imagine ever having a positive relationship with that person again.
That's so true, Safia. Forgiveness is much more about you as the forgiver than the other person. And you're right to say that just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you need to let them back in your life. Healing can happen from a distance.
It sounds just like me. I have forgiven people who have betrayed me but given a choice I wouldn't want to talk to them ever again. Not because they betrayed me but because they wouldn't believe my words and would try to hurt me again.
Agree, Gurpreet. Opening yourself back up to being hurt again shouldn't be a prerequisite for forgiveness.